I have not kept my commitment. I set out to blog every other week at the beginning of the year, but I only made it two months before missing one weekend. Now I’ve missed a couple.
I could give lots of excuses for not continuing to blog, and one would be a common and overused excuse we often hear: “I’ve just been really busy.” Have you used that one before?
Aren’t we all “really busy?” From what I can tell, everyone is “busy.” Our society has accepted this excuse as a legitimate reason for not keeping commitments or doing what is expected of us. Unfortunately, it’s a lie, and most of us have bought it. What’s worse is that it’s not even a good lie! Why is busyness an acceptable and desired description?
My dad had a saying he used to (and still does) tell my brother and me when we used this excuse in front of him (which by the way was really ignorant of us because he has always had more to do than either of us). It was, “You have time for the things you want to have time for.”
When my wife reminded me (graciously) that I’ve not kept this commitment to whoever is reading this blog, I realized the excuse “I’ve been busy” is really just a disclosure of my priorities. The truth is I had other things I wanted to do that came above blogging on my priority list—some good things and some things that are simply a waste of time.
While I have been busy over the last month with some very exciting things, like helping launching a national ministry called CityONE Network, taking on more responsibility at work, helping out more around the house during tax season, and closing on a new home, I have been blind to the fact that I dropped the ball on some commitments I had made (blogging and a couple others).
The problem for me really happens when I start to believe I’m busier than I actually am. I start to look for excuses to sit down in my recliner every night and just turn off my productivity switch. “Man, I’ve been so busy today, I deserve to sit down and watch TV for 2 hours before I go to bed. Blogging, exercising, spending time studying Scripture, calling that friend, connecting with my wife…that all can wait. It’s MY time now.”
Maybe it’s your work schedule. Maybe it’s your work out schedule. Maybe it’s how much time you think you need to relax. We are so often “doing” that we tend to underestimate how much our “doing” is affecting what kind of persons we are becoming. Workaholics. Workout-aholics. Social media-aholics. Thinking through why I feel so entitled to shut things down and ignore any other commitments I’ve made or expectations I’ve created made me question my priorities.
What do you want your priorities to be? What do you want to define you? As I was reminded this weekend, God calls those who are included in His family a chosen people, a holy nation, a royal priesthood, and a people of His own possession (1 Peter 2:9). This is what I want to be defined by. This is my identity, and this is my purpose. I am a child of God through the sacrifice of Jesus Christ, and because of that, I am a new person with a new purpose. God is telling His story through my life, and it’s my job to narrate it well.
Sadly, I tend to fill my day with a lot of things that have nothing to do with what I know my identity and purpose are supposed to be. If someone looked at your life from the outside, how would he or she describe you?
What would you be defined by?
Your job? Your relationship status? Your fitness? Your friends? Your family? Your sin? Your success? Your possessions?
You can easily see what is currently defining you by looking at two things: where you spend your time and where you spend your money.
How does your time and your money define you?
In Colossians 4, Paul exhorts those who follow Jesus to make the best use of their time. May there be a day when we can honestly use the excuse, “I’ve been busy,” or “I’ve just have a lot going on right now,” and still say, “I’ve made the best use of my time.”